Tuesday, 15 October 2013

New Blog!

I've decided to start a separate blog for Quintin and our new chapter of our family life.....


I'll start posting soon!

Saturday, 3 August 2013

Welcome to the World Quintin Roy Dufour :)

On Sunday, July 28, 2013, at 10:11pm our family of three became at family of four....

I had a rough two weeks of on again and off again labour (also known as "fake" labour or "prodromal" labour).  Nothing is more of a let down than thinking "this is it" and then it just stops suddenly.

Saturday, the night before I had him, I was having some major "fake labour" going on.  I didn't get excited because I figured it would stop, and sure enough it did. I had a few contractions that woke me up every hour through the night but shook it off as being fake.  We went visiting in the morning, and then came home to put Ethan down for a nap.

I wasn't feeling great so I took a nap too - or tried to at least.  Every minute that passed I felt more and more sick to my stomach and just decided that I couldn't handle this "fake labour" anymore.  I took a shower and went on my hands and knees and wouldn't you know.... my water broke!!  The only issue was that it wasn't just amniotic fluid but dark red blood - a sure sign of placenta issues (later to be found to be a partial placental abruption).

We paged the Midwife and she met us at the hospital.  She did an internal check and said I was a good 4 cm dilated.  So we headed to the birthing suite.  From the time my water broke to the time we got to the hospital and set up in the room it had been an hour and this is when my contractions started to pick up.  My plan was for an unmedicated birth so I was breathing the best I could through every contraction up to the "peak" and then tried to relax until the next one came.  They came faster and faster and harder and stronger, but I stuck to it and I breathed while being coached by Ryan.

It came to a point where it was starting to become unbearable and I wanted some sort of relief.  Out came the Nitrous Oxide and even though the pain was still there I was able to relax and breathe again through each contraction.  And with the gas, it never crosses the placenta to the baby (bonus!).  At this point she checked me again (it was about 2 hours since contractions started) and I was 8 cm - I was in transition!  Oh boy was I ever!  I kept begging for relief so we tried different positions but hands and knees, leaning over a bean bag were the best for me.

My Midwife kept asking me to tell her when I felt change...she must know the signs because every time she asked, I felt it.  She looked at me skeptical a couple times but she decided to check me and I was past 8cm.  She asked again if things changed about 20 minutes later and again I said yes... sure enough it was time for my body to push.  I had no control over this and could not stop my body from doing this.

As I was pushing, Quinn's heartbeat was dipping down to 80/90 BPM.  This baby wanted and needed to come out as soon as possible.  We had to consult with the OB on call, so he came and assisted with the birth.  If you know me, you know my hips are small, which results in a pelvis that doesn't open much, which in turn, does not allow my babies to descent into the birth canal as they should!  So out came the vacuum to assist Quinn down.  I was pushing for about half hour to get him to crown and finally, with assistance he did.  And then a few more pushes and he was born.

He was born with Shoulder Dystocia but luckily no complications came out of it except for some soft tissue injury and muscle tightness which lifted the shoulder blade spine out a bit.  (Chiropractic care is treating this).  I also lost a lot of blood from the abruption of my placenta but nothing that required a blood transfusion.

Quintin Roy Dufour was born into this world at 10:11pm weighing 8lb 11oz and 20.5" long.  I had a 4 hour labour/delivery and had my planned unmedicated birth experience.  And I am so happy that I stuck with it because recovery is absolutely amazing.  I had a "skid mark" tear which did not require stitches and was able to walk around one hour (probably earlier) after the delivery.  I felt like a million bucks after delivery and even the next day was full of energy.  Post Partum healing and emotions, for the most part have been great and I can still chase my 1.5 year old Ethan around (if need be), although I have still been trying to rest as much as possible.

Breastfeeding is going great - my mature milk came in 2 days after delivery and he is one little piggy when it comes to milk.  Since I stayed an extra night in the hospital (due to observation for his shoulder and the fact that I had Group B Strep and wasn't in labour long enough to administer the proper dosage of antibiotics to him - he is fine though), I nursed around the clock - and I really mean it - like every 2 hours on the dot), so that most definitely helped my mature milk come in fast!! Breastfeeding for a year before with Ethan also contributed as well.  His latch was perfect from the get go and I am so thankful that we have not run into any issues.  That was a major "fear" of mine because of the trouble I had with Ethan, but no, not with Quinn.  He's a natural born nurser :D

I haven't decided yet if I'm going to change blog sites but if I do I will be sure to post a link.  I'll update soon with how the first week has been.

Monday, 29 April 2013

New Stuff for Baby Q!

We basically have all that we need for when Quintin makes his grand arrival, but there are a few things that I wanted to buy / needed - just from my experience with Ethan.  

We were graciously lended and/or given some big ticket items from some great friends.  These include a bassinet, a swing and a Jumparoo.  Why do you ask?  Well the bassinet - these are just stupid expensive and why not share and borrow!  They only use it for a few weeks.  The swing, well, if you knew Ethan, you know that he was held for THREE MONTHS STRAIGHT!  So I would not dare buy another one lol.  We have the stupid Mamaroo that Q will probably hate as well....   The last thing that was given to us was the Jumparoo.  Ethan LOVED it (we didn't have one, just used everybody elses when we went to their houses) and we no longer have the Exersaucer, so this will do both ! 

Now onto the purchases:  I'll explain what it is, what it's used for and why (most are self explanatory!) 

MEDELA FREESTYLE - I wanted a new pump and one that would get the job done quickly and easily.  Considering Ethan is going to still be under 2 years old, I need something that is small and portable and hands free.  It was definitely an investment but will be well worth it and well needed.  

MEDELA CALMA NIPPLE - I have the bottles that come with the pump (plus the ones from my other pump), but I wanted to try this nipple because apparently it's an easy transition from breast to bottle as it mimics the way the milk comes out. I found this brand new, sealed on Kijiji for half the price of what it sells for in stores.  If it works out well, I'll keep scoping out Kijiji for more unused nipples :) 


NURSING PILLOW - THE MOMBO - I didn't specifically want this pillow, I just wanted whatever was on sale and I saw this one and thought it was cute.  I don't nurse with these bulky pillows, I find it difficult.  A good ol' pillow works for me.  I do however like the nursing pillows to support baby or lay baby down, and this one has a vibrating mechanism that you insert inside the pillow.  Ethan loved his pillow (Oh, why did I get rid of it - who knows, I have no idea...because even if I never used it for him it's great for newborn photography!).  

NEWBORN CLOTH DIAPERS & INSERTS - Since we couldn't use our Grovia diapers with Ethan until he was 3 months old, and even then they were big on him, I decided to buy newborn cloth diapers.  I found 6 covers on Kijiji (that explains the pink one!).  They are Bummis Super Bright covers and the inserts I purchased off online - a natural cotton prefold.  (Sorry I don't know the brand).  

PAMPERS SENSITIVE DISPOSABLE DIAPERS - I like to use disposables during the night, and I always had success with Ethan using Pampers.  Ethan has never had a diaper rash, and we still use disposable at night with him so I have faith in Pampers!!

LANSINOH BREAST PADS - These are my favorite.  I have tried so many and these are discrete and don't show through your bra.  

NUBY FUN LINKS - I've learned after having Ethan that these are good for EVERYTHING.  Attaching toys to the car seat, chew toys, purse hangers for the stroller.... everything I tell ya, everything.

GUMDROP PACIFIERS - I only bought one pack of these because who knows if Baby Q will even like a paci.  Ethan uses the Avent Soothies and personally they are my favorite, but I saw these and they are very similar to the Soothie except they are not circular, which will differentiate the two and when it drops it won't roll under the crib every time!  Ideally it would be nice to get Ethan out of a soother, but I don't think that's happening for awhile.  We reserve it for bedtime and naps only, so it's a start! 

SOFT BLANKET - sorry no name brand.  I found it at Winners and it is similar to the one Ethan has - it's great for winter time and just for cuddling.

BURP CLOTH - CARTER'S - I picked these up at Target and I like the contour of them better than a receiving blanket.  I bought some receiving blankets as well, but I really like these for "burping the baby" :) 

RECEIVING BLANKETS - CARTER'S - I bought these from Target as well.  They say receiving blankets, but they are a lot thicker than a receiving blanket would be - so I am just going to use it as a light weight blanket.

CRIB - We got the same crib as Ethans, on Kijiji, for 1/3 of the price.  I don't have a photo of the crib (well I do but I don't feel like going through digital albums to find one!).  

RUMBLE SEAT FOR UPPA BABY - We have an Uppa Baby Stroller and there is an attachment to turn it into a double stroller, which is called a Rumble Seat.  We haven't ordered it yet, but when we plan our next trip to the states, we will put one on order with Buy Buy Baby.  (The link is to the blog but you can see how it acts on the stroller).

So that is it, so far.  Of course I got some new clothes as well for the summer months, since Ethan was a Winter baby, but most of the clothes, I have more than enough from Ethan to use in the months to come!  

I'll do a post on Baby Essentials (in my opinion of course) in the near future! 

Thursday, 25 April 2013

Not too much to report....

I don't have much to report.  So I guess I'll just update on my pregnancy.  Sorry no photos.... no need for those :)

I am now 25 weeks along (I look like I'm 35 weeks along).

I am loving both of my midwives and happy to leave my OB.  (I have 2 midwives because I am going to deliver sometime in the summer and they take a lot of vacations so I will get whichever is on call that week).  They are both fantastic and wonderful, they listen to me and we chat about pregnancy, food, kids, work, etc.  I swear they are like a friend to me.

My sugars are great.  They are cooperating.  I still have some time to go but I got some good advice from my midwives so I am going to go on a bit of a "low carb" diet - meaning no processed crap, breads, pasta (well sometimes), etc.  My focus is going to be on vegetables, fruit, protein (meat, tofu), and nuts and seeds for my snacks.

Baby Q (Quintin if you don't know already), is doing great.  He is getting into his wake/sleep patterns.  He is awake from 9:30pm - 10:30pm.  Then he thankfully sleeps when I sleep.  He is awake at 5:30/6:00am for about 15 minutes, and then randomly during the day.  He's kicking up a storm and makes me cough sometimes.  You can really see him kicking too.  Funny story: I was at an appointment yesterday and the midwife was listening to his heartbeat.  Well he kept moving away from the doppler, so she actually pinned him down in my belly.  I couldn't stop laughing!  She mapped him out where he was laying and it was exactly where I felt he was - I thought that was pretty cool.

New items bought:  I really don't need much for this little guy, but I did buy a few things that I needed. I will do a separate post once everything is organized and set and once I take photos of everything, but he has his summer wardrobe and oh my goodness is it ever cute.  Lots of creepers from Carters, a couple outfits and lots of sleepers.  A lot was from Ethan (sleepers and onesies), but I did get a few things that he needs to keep cool in the summer months.

I seem to still have some bursts of energy.  I hope it lasts another few weeks at least.  Ryan and I are going to Chicago for 3 days to get away and have a mini vacation.  We are taking the train so I hope it goes well!  We got a great deal on a 5* hotel through Hotwire.com and a nice discount on the train tickets as well.  Now it's just everything else that we have to worry about!

Pregnancy Stats Overview:

Weeks: 25
Weight Gain: 18 lbs
Sugars: Good
Cravings: Salty foods
Aversions: Stirfry (weird I know)
Energy Levels:  Moderate
Bedtime: 11pm

I'm posting this to see how much it changes over the weeks!

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

There's a party in my belly

Not really too much to report other than a SUPER ACTIVE baby Q right now.  He does not stop kicking and stretching and hiccupping!  Ethan was the same way but I don't remember him being this crazy this early.  I don't mind really, but sometimes it really hurts!  It's physically noticeable to see him moving now because my belly moves with his kicks.  I am happy that he is head down - been that way for a couple weeks now.  At my 20 week scan he was "breech" and although I am very well aware that they flip constantly, it was still in the back of my mind that he may stay that way.  Well he seems to like it head down now - how do I know he's down?  Well the constant kicks in the ribs!

I have started very early this time with Braxton Hicks contractions as well - not painful, but most definitely uncomfortable.  I'd like to believe that this means Baby Q will come early as well.... but I think that's just a personal hope :)

I am continuing to round out, but again, I don't feel as large as I was with Ethan.  I have gained about 10 lbs so far and I am in my 23rd week.... I think that's pretty good.  I know, I know, why am I worrying about my weight right!  Well, I kinda have to because I am REALLY trying to prevent insulin injections with my mild case of diabetes.  I do not want a "high risk" pregnancy and as long as I control with diet and exercise, I am not considered high risk.

We are on full throttle organization and getting the house complete before Baby Q comes.  There really isn't too much left to do, just 3 major things.  I have decided to make the bedding for new baby as well. I found a PERFECT fabric for it and it is on it's way!  You can see the beautiful fabric HERE.  The company is Monaluna and it's the Fox Hollow print.  It's a bundle of 10 1/2 yard fabrics!  It's organic as well and made in her barn!  So with it, I am making the baby quilt and the bed skirt, plus some newborn bibs, maybe a baby shirt and just other random things.  I am very excited!

I went though all of Ethan 0-3 month clothing and oh my word he has the CUTEST selection!  I must have been way too tired to notice lol.  I am lucky that I don't really have to get anything other than a few summer rompers for him because the rest will fit him perfectly.  I thought I would have to buy 6-12 month clothing as well (as Ethan was in summer clothes by then, and Q will be in winter cothes) but for some reason I have a lot that will be good for him too!

We still have to buy a crib mattress and that is pretty much all we need.  We are still trying to figure out sleeping situations for the first few months until he goes into Ethans bed.  At first I joked that Q could sleep in the hallway in a bassinet outside our room- but then I started to think that it's probably a good idea after a couple weeks so he doesn't constantly smell my milk and wake up ;).  Plus Ethan can slowly get used to his cries as well..... We will see.... I still have 4 months to think about it :D

That's all I've got for you!  Sorry no pictures again, I will have to work on that a bit better.  Ethan is so active that I barely have time to think about grabbing the camera!  And now his nap is over and it's time to play all over again!

Thursday, 28 March 2013

From OB to Midwife...

I am so excited.  I finally found a Midwife that is wonderful and that would take me even though I have Gestational Diabetes (controlled by diet & exercise, which means I am not high risk!!).  Her name is Poppy and she is wonderful!  I will actually have two midwives, but she is my main one.

So what are the differences between OB's and Midwife visits?  A lot.... but first here are the similarities...

They both do the following:

Check your urine (except at the Midwives, you check your own in the privacy of the bathroom and report back if your urine is clear from a reading on the stick).  

Check for blood pressure

Measure belly, listen to babies heart beat, fell the abdomen. 

Ask if you have any questions

Refer you for tests/ultrasounds/etc...

What are the differences

Generally at an OB's office, you wait....and wait.  Luckily at mine, I never had to wait more than 10-15 minutes.  When you go to your midwife appointment...they are waiting for you.

OB visits are about 5-7 minutes long.  Midwives take about half hour to 45 minutes.  They go through the basics, and then they take the time to know you and who your family is.

At the OB, they are very vague with any results or issues you may have.  Midwives go through in detail what's going on.  

OB's weigh you at every visit.....Midwives don't :)

You are not allowed to bring children to your OB appointments (at least not at mine).  Midwives have an entire play area with toys in the waiting room AND in the rooms for kids to play with.  She even let my son play with her stethoscope and measuring tape.

There are many more differences, too many to go through really, but you get the point.  

At Delivery and Emergency Situations:

The midwives are on call 24/7.  You will never go to the hospital without meeting your midwife there.  They take care of ALL your needs.  They can be paged at any time of the day or night (but obviously expect you to use your own judgement as to if it's very necessary for them to be paged at 3am or not!).

With an OB, you go to OB Triage and they will assess you there and whichever doctor is on call will check you out and decide from there what needs to be done.  

At delivery, again, you would page your midwife when you are in active labour (or call the office if you are in early labour if it's business hours).  They will guide you on the phone, or meet you wherever you are.  Once you are in active labour, she is with you until 1-2 hours post birth.  Her and another midwife are the only two that are present with you for the entire birth...this means it's not a revolving door of different people.  

OB's are on a rotation and take turns being on-call for the month.  This means you are not guaranteed your doctor at delivery (luckily I had mine with Ethan) and you can see 2 different doctors at your birth.  (Like I did! The first one caused a lot of problems and my OB helped me out afterwards).  Nurses are also on rotation, so you will more than likely have different nurses through your delivery.  

With an OB you are allowed 2 people in the room with you.  With a Midwife, you can have a party of people in there if you want :) (No, that would not be my choice!)

After Delivery:

The Midwife takes care of mom an baby 6 weeks post birth.  She comes to your house and when it's possible, you will go to the office for checkups. 

With an OB, 24 hours after you are discharged from the hospital, you need to go to the Newborn Clinic at the hospital for the baby to be weighed.  You have to also make doctors appointments for your newborn one week after being discharged.  It's a lot of hassle with a newborn and being sore to have to lug around to different appointments.

So am I happy about switching over to Midwifery care - you better believe it!

The fact that I do have GD and I control only by diet and exercise, as above mentioned, I am not considered high risk.  If, god forbid, I go on insulin, I will then be referred back to an OB and it would be shared care with a midwife.  This would mean that I would be seeing both OB and Midwife (but mostly Midwife).  At delivery, an OB would be present to help deliver but the Midwife is in the room with me the entire time and post delivery.

It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and the anxiety I had with the thought of this next birth has vanished!  So although these next 4 months may fly by, I am pretty sure it will be an awesome experience from now until delivery and beyond!

Tuesday, 5 March 2013

Sick Baby :( and energy burst for me!

Ethan is sick, poor thing.  He is still very active during the day but there are moments where he definitely needs to rest - and I suck all of those cuddles up! The worst is at bedtime when he is sleeping and wakes up with his coughing fits - poor thing.  I know I can't really give him anything, but I did give him Tylenol and Advil for his fever and a sample from Aleva Naturals Breathe Easy Chest Rub.  He woke up and couldn't breathe so I rubbed some on his back and he seemed to fall back asleep and has been asleep for over an hour.  I'm using a warm mist humidifier as well with Eucalyptus Oil in it.  Thankfully I am not working any day shifts this week!

As for me, I have such a huge burst of energy.  I mean, I cleaned the floors tonight..... I used my steam cleaner, but still....that takes a lot of effort!  AND I'm doing laundry lol.  Ryan usually does the laundry, but since he is on afternoons I have to do the dirty work ;)  I have also been on a cooking/baking spree. The lovely second trimester..... better get this all in now before the third starts!!